If they’re still around and things are going from bad to worse, you’ll be getting the hot and cold treatment while thinking ‘It was so great in the beginning! ’ and then sinking all your efforts into trying to retrieve the beginning of the relationship.
It’s nice to feel adored and if you’re a passion seeker that tends to talk about ‘type’ ‘compatability’ ‘common interests’ ‘passion’ ‘connection’ etc, you’ll be ripe for someone to fast-forward the crap out of you and then feel desolate and inclined to go on the validation seeking trail when things start to go wrong.
They either disappear when they start to feel panicky about the fact that you will want, need, and expect in line with the great show they have been putting on.
If these people are still around in a year or two and your high intensity dalliance yields into something more steady, then good for you.
However, the problem with people who fast-forward is that they can’t cope with steadiness.
Originally scheduled as a lunchtime meet, it lasted all day and into the night.
The following day she said it felt like they’d known each other for weeks instead of hours. Another friend met a guy who she was half-heartedly interested in.
From declarations of falling in love and ‘I love you’ when they’d barely known them a hot minute, conversations about babies, marriage, moving in, meeting parents and being whirled around like a show pony amongst friends, or hearing about how ‘Everyone is so eager to meet you’, to high intensity liaisons with persistence, great sex, average sex, and multiple phone calls, texts, emails, and letters in a bottle, all of these people have been whizzed at high speed through the early crucial stage of dating.